Category Archives: Coping with the Death of a Child

A need for change

Posted on December 4, 2013 by pathfinder

I know I am not the only person who struggles with change.  I know people who are in their 60’s who have clothes they wore in high school.  I have seen people who have not changed the way they wear … Continue reading →

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A reminder of the season

Posted on November 18, 2013 by pathfinder

My son loved the products of the company Patagonia.  I think he pictured himself being like Yvon Chouinard,  leading a life of learning and exploration.  He held in common with Mr. Chouinard  the love of climbing, environmentalism and falconry.  Mr. … Continue reading →

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turning leaves like pages

Posted on November 13, 2013 by pathfinder

Dear Son, Fall took its time this year.  It teased us a little with a gold here and a red there until early November before it popped.  Last night the cold shriveled the remaining leaves and in the next day … Continue reading →

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Some days. . .

Posted on November 4, 2013 by pathfinder

Somedays it is difficult to get out of bed, out of the chair, out from front of the t.v. , down the driveway to get the mail or think of something to eat.  Most days that feeling of difficulty, ambivalence, … Continue reading →

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Sorting

Posted on November 1, 2013 by pathfinder

Fall has officially wrapped its coat of many colors over the shoulders of these mountains.  Today is a gray day -which to me, always makes the oranges, reds and yellows pop.   I don’t know if the “leaf-ers” as they … Continue reading →

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Peripheral vision

Posted on October 14, 2013 by pathfinder

I have a good friend who is retired and was happily exploring the passions and interests he had  prior to his retirement.  Then he had a stroke.  The stroke destroyed his peripheral vision on his left side and he is … Continue reading →

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The face in the mirror

Posted on October 1, 2013 by pathfinder

Dear Son, I had a dream about you the other night.  I was in my bathroom and when I looked into the mirror it was your face I saw.  You smiled at me then slowly your face faded into mine. … Continue reading →

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A delicate balance

Posted on September 13, 2013 by pathfinder

I am not the only one walking a thin line with delicate balance.  The illusion that I used to operate under is apparent now and is not so apparent to everyone else who has not had the illusion shattered.  For … Continue reading →

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The vicious cycle

Posted on September 3, 2013 by pathfinder

I keep writing things.  I have all these files on my computer of things I have written and I can’t bear to post them.  It sort of mirrors a lot of the way I am feeling right now.    Both … Continue reading →

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A half a glass of water

Posted on August 22, 2013 by pathfinder

Today is my daughter’s birthday.  She and I had a discussion the other day about her birthday and her particular struggle with the fact that she is now only a year younger than her brother.   She was born three … Continue reading →

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