Tag Archives: Mental health

Anger

Posted on February 17, 2016 by pathfinder

Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and my son’s birthday have passed. The light lingers a bit longer and the globe is repeating the pattern that slowly guides us into Spring. The year that was 2015 brought about good changes for some … Continue reading →

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Setting the caged bird free

Posted on May 1, 2014 by pathfinder

I am reading a book called “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie. The book was published in 1986. I wish I had heard about it then and moreover wish I had read it. I don’t know if I could have … Continue reading →

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What the day affords

Posted on April 1, 2014 by pathfinder

Are you able to help the way you feel? My mother used to say “I cannot help the way I feel.” I always thought that she meant that that applied only to her. She was allowed to behave any way … Continue reading →

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Blessed are

Posted on December 12, 2013 by pathfinder

I have spent every day for the past two years, five months and ten days figuring out how to make it through each of these days.  I think I have done pretty well.  I have stopped thinking about any of … Continue reading →

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Some days. . .

Posted on November 4, 2013 by pathfinder

Somedays it is difficult to get out of bed, out of the chair, out from front of the t.v. , down the driveway to get the mail or think of something to eat.  Most days that feeling of difficulty, ambivalence, … Continue reading →

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The vicious cycle

Posted on September 3, 2013 by pathfinder

I keep writing things.  I have all these files on my computer of things I have written and I can’t bear to post them.  It sort of mirrors a lot of the way I am feeling right now.    Both … Continue reading →

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A half a glass of water

Posted on August 22, 2013 by pathfinder

Today is my daughter’s birthday.  She and I had a discussion the other day about her birthday and her particular struggle with the fact that she is now only a year younger than her brother.   She was born three … Continue reading →

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Thought for the day – forgiveness

Posted on July 24, 2013 by pathfinder

A friend posted a “poster” on her Facebook page that read: ” Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it”.   Well that certainly covers a lot of territory. As parents who have lost a … Continue reading →

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A work in progress

Posted on April 30, 2013 by pathfinder

What is in it for me to try and control everything – especially people?  For the most part it leads to feelings of resentment because they won’t do what I want.  The bigger question is “why do I think I … Continue reading →

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Telling the story

Posted on January 13, 2013 by pathfinder

When it comes to my son, my heart continues to refuse to think of him as “gone.”  It is a daily battle and sometimes just to be able to get on with the day I give in to pretending.  I … Continue reading →

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