Category Archives: Holidays

That time of year

Posted on November 29, 2018 by pathfinder

Grief has layers like an onion and quite frankly some stink more than others.   Death and life are all around me each vying for my attention. Recently a friend has suffered the death of her husband.  He was my … Continue reading →

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the end of the year

Posted on December 30, 2017 by pathfinder

I have started and abandoned a number of writings this year.  The overwhelming feelings rush over me.  I loath to admit it is the fear of loosing the entire day if I dare to acknowledge out loud or at least … Continue reading →

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Every Day is Mother’s Day

Posted on May 12, 2017 by pathfinder

My mother used to say “every day is mother’s day.”    As a child I never knew what to make of that.   I am loath to admit I thought she meant that we were supposed to put her up … Continue reading →

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The season of reason

Posted on December 21, 2016 by pathfinder

This is the 5th Christmas season since the death of our son. Something about the numbers five, ten, fifteen and twenty and the milestones they represent taunt those of us who continue to grieve, yearn for and miss our children. … Continue reading →

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Anger

Posted on February 17, 2016 by pathfinder

Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and my son’s birthday have passed. The light lingers a bit longer and the globe is repeating the pattern that slowly guides us into Spring. The year that was 2015 brought about good changes for some … Continue reading →

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Thirty three years

Posted on February 10, 2015 by pathfinder

You have probably had that moment when you have been very busy and the busy-ness stops. You are in a familiar place where you stand still for just that second and the familiar is surprising because of  just how familiar it … Continue reading →

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End of the year inventory

Posted on December 21, 2014 by pathfinder

  My mother used to say to me that I should go to my room and imagine I could take myself apart – and do an inventory of my parts. I always was a bit confused as a child concerning … Continue reading →

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Most Wonderful Time of the Year?

Posted on December 5, 2014 by pathfinder

As of late I have been reading more about other parents struggles than writing about my own. It is not necessarily comforting although it does help a little to know that I am not alone. Grief for a beloved child … Continue reading →

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Dear Son – Fall is Here

Posted on November 12, 2014 by pathfinder

Dear Son, The fall is here, the year is coming to an end. Again Halloween butts right up against Christmas for the retailers and before they can liquidate the Halloween candy Christmas trees are crowding the isles. Time intermittently speeds … Continue reading →

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The volume of silence

Posted on August 21, 2014 by pathfinder

The silence speaks for me these days. Dear son, I don’t know what to say anymore. Tomorrow is your sister’s birthday. Tough birthday in so many ways. She will have reached her 29th year. The anniversary of the day you … Continue reading →

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