Category Archives: Friends

Patience for the day

Posted on August 16, 2013 by pathfinder

I feel like I should write something.  It feels like by not doing so I am letting myself down.  I’ve never figured out who it is that stands over me in my head with these expectations.  I don’t think of myself … Continue reading →

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In the face of change

Posted on July 29, 2013 by pathfinder

Change is happening all the time, all around us, with us and without us.  It pushes and pulls us.  Sometimes it seems to shove us.  At times it has happened without our notice and when we arrive upon that change … Continue reading →

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Thought for the day – forgiveness

Posted on July 24, 2013 by pathfinder

A friend posted a “poster” on her Facebook page that read: ” Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it”.   Well that certainly covers a lot of territory. As parents who have lost a … Continue reading →

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the poverty of words

Posted on July 9, 2013 by pathfinder

The poverty of words to describe life now for me and my immediate family is frustrating.  There is no relief.  The descriptive words are inadequate and the words for the emotions are flimsy and diluted – a shadow of the … Continue reading →

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Father’s Day

Posted on June 16, 2013 by pathfinder

The days pile up one by one standing waiting to be recognized for their significance and what they mark in our memory. Every day becomes a memorial day.  It is unintentional. The national holidays, the manufactured holidays all form ready … Continue reading →

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Eleven Weeks

Posted on April 18, 2013 by pathfinder

In eleven weeks we will experience the 2nd anniversary of our son’s death.  That means we have been walking this path for ninety-three weeks.  This week others started this journey.  They are in shock. Right now they are gathering their … Continue reading →

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Man of sorrows

Posted on April 8, 2013 by pathfinder

Dear Son, I am a broken record when it comes to thoughts of you.  They cycle around and around and always come back to the same hard place.   I’m doing it, your dad is doing it, your sister is … Continue reading →

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Circling back

Posted on March 25, 2013 by pathfinder

  The footprint of every day leaves a deep impression on my heart. Strangely, paradoxically, when I turn to see where I have been the events of each passing 24 hours has disappeared, no trace.         I … Continue reading →

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Belonging

Posted on February 25, 2013 by pathfinder

Dear Son, I had a great day yesterday.  The sun was shining and the temperature warmed into the 50’s.         It was good to go to church to be with the family.  It may sound cold to … Continue reading →

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Inventory

Posted on February 18, 2013 by pathfinder

I am beginning to recognize myself for who I am in this ” now”. I feel better when I paint or work in clay or knit.  I feel like myself.  I feel like myself when I read.  I feel like … Continue reading →

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