Category Archives: Coping with the Death of a Child

investments

Posted on June 20, 2012 by pathfinder

Dear Son, Some days I have to paddle really hard and some days I just float.  These are tough days.  I feel like I have rebounded back to the time just after your accident again.  I have a hard time … Continue reading →

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Anniversaries

Posted on June 15, 2012 by pathfinder

June is halfway through.  I am remembering an anniversary with my son, a storm that took down trees and a hike in Panthertown.  They are good memories. There is inherent loneliness in intense grief.  There is a feeling that no … Continue reading →

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Memorial Day

Posted on May 28, 2012 by pathfinder

Today our country is honoring the memory of those who gave their life in service to their country.  Whether on the field of battle or whether through some mishap during training or while on duty they were still “serving”.  I … Continue reading →

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another day

Posted on May 11, 2012 by pathfinder

Right after our son died other people who had lost children told me “your son is with you.”  I was incredulous.   He was gone.  Life was empty.  Other meaningful relationships were blunted and dulled to gray.  The world with … Continue reading →

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Better???

Posted on May 4, 2012 by pathfinder

Having grief in your life on this level is walking a path filled with land mines.   I think I am navigating my way through pretty well when wham!  one blows up in my face. I’ve been told lately by … Continue reading →

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Collecting

Posted on May 1, 2012 by pathfinder

Hey Babe, It is Tuesday and I’ve been busy with all the business life throws at me.  I know why you hiked and went into the woods so often.  It was to escape all the clutter of things in this … Continue reading →

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Vacation

Posted on April 26, 2012 by pathfinder

Dear Son, We are “on vacation.”  We have rented a house at Hilton Head.  Your dad has a conference at the end of the week.  He finds it hard to take a full week for himself without including something that … Continue reading →

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Small comforts

Posted on April 17, 2012 by pathfinder

Dear Son, In the silence of this house, when I am by myself the question “why” comes up a lot.  I don’t ask others to share in providing an answer, because I fear their responses.  Some say it was your … Continue reading →

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I’ll take my chances

Posted on April 11, 2012 by pathfinder

April arrived in full bloom.  Now some ten days into the month we are being threatened with frost and freezing temperatures at night.  There is a threat of freezing weather for the next few nights.  The plants that should be … Continue reading →

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Symbiotic Relationship

Posted on April 3, 2012 by pathfinder

Dear Son, I don’t know what to say. My head is so jumbled with thoughts and I can’t seem to sort through them.  I talk to you all the time in my head.  I think about how you might react … Continue reading →

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