Category Archives: Death

Dear Son

Posted on January 27, 2012 by pathfinder

Hey Babe, The weird weather here is suiting me just fine.  It seems fitting that everything should be weird , out-of-the-ordinary, atypical.  The sun is shining while all the clouds on the horizon are as dark as pitch.  There are … Continue reading →

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It is life

Posted on January 26, 2012 by pathfinder

You go to have your eyes examined.  They put you in that uncomfortable chair.  Drops to dilate your pupils and drops to numb your eye are administered.  There is no way to focus.  I hate the numbing drops most, in … Continue reading →

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Grief

Posted on January 20, 2012 by pathfinder

I can count the days since July 2nd on one hand when I have not shed a tear. I haven’t had one of those days in a while.  I am working on not letting those tearless days make me feel … Continue reading →

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January 16, 2012

Posted on January 17, 2012 by pathfinder

Dear Son, Your sister was home this weekend.  She came alone.  She left the dogs and your brother-in-law back at the house.  She has a renter for your apartment.  She has stamped all your books and readied them for the … Continue reading →

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time relentless passing

Posted on January 14, 2012 by pathfinder

the fingers must relax their grip held for so long bent in that shape tension held meant not to crush rather to embrace not willing to relinquish to forgotten pockets the precious hard won relics   shocking the revelation vivid … Continue reading →

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The rocking chair named worry

Posted on January 12, 2012 by pathfinder

Do you remember the day last year when that man predicted the world would end? The radio and television hosts had a field day with it.  I wondered if some of them were whistling in the dark. I remember it … Continue reading →

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Sorting

Posted on January 11, 2012 by pathfinder

It was not long after our son died that my husband went back to work. My husband is a hard working man. When he is “off” he still finds something to occupy his time. Our yard is well groomed. There … Continue reading →

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Feel again

Posted on January 10, 2012 by pathfinder

One of my good friends told me that when she was younger her mother had a great and horrible reply for one of the more commonly used phrases employed by young people when they are asked to do something they … Continue reading →

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In the New Year

Posted on January 9, 2012 by pathfinder

Dear Son, I have to tell you that this is the hardest thing I have ever had to learn to do, figuring out how to continue on without you.  It has no precedent.   I cannot compare it to anything … Continue reading →

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The path

Posted on January 6, 2012 by pathfinder

Cycling through again.   I have stopped counting the cycles.   I have recognized that they can come from unanticipated triggers.  Notes and remembrances from loving friends, stories in the news of events that parallel our own unfortunate circumstances, days … Continue reading →

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