Tag Archives: Grief Loss and Bereavement

The vicious cycle

Posted on September 3, 2013 by pathfinder

I keep writing things.  I have all these files on my computer of things I have written and I can’t bear to post them.  It sort of mirrors a lot of the way I am feeling right now.    Both … Continue reading →

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A half a glass of water

Posted on August 22, 2013 by pathfinder

Today is my daughter’s birthday.  She and I had a discussion the other day about her birthday and her particular struggle with the fact that she is now only a year younger than her brother.   She was born three … Continue reading →

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Thought for the day – forgiveness

Posted on July 24, 2013 by pathfinder

A friend posted a “poster” on her Facebook page that read: ” Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it”.   Well that certainly covers a lot of territory. As parents who have lost a … Continue reading →

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the poverty of words

Posted on July 9, 2013 by pathfinder

The poverty of words to describe life now for me and my immediate family is frustrating.  There is no relief.  The descriptive words are inadequate and the words for the emotions are flimsy and diluted – a shadow of the … Continue reading →

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Each in his own way

Posted on June 3, 2013 by pathfinder

Is there sin in sorrow? I cannot fathom this could be believed in Christianity since Isaiah 53 says in the foreshadow of Christ that he is a man of sorrows.  Yet in the world at times we who dwell in … Continue reading →

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Observations revisited

Posted on May 28, 2013 by pathfinder

I am repeatedly surprised at how raw my grief is.  I have no gauge by which to measure it.  I talk with other parents who have experienced a loss.   We do not compare our feelings as such but we … Continue reading →

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A work in progress

Posted on April 30, 2013 by pathfinder

What is in it for me to try and control everything – especially people?  For the most part it leads to feelings of resentment because they won’t do what I want.  The bigger question is “why do I think I … Continue reading →

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Eleven Weeks

Posted on April 18, 2013 by pathfinder

In eleven weeks we will experience the 2nd anniversary of our son’s death.  That means we have been walking this path for ninety-three weeks.  This week others started this journey.  They are in shock. Right now they are gathering their … Continue reading →

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Man of sorrows

Posted on April 8, 2013 by pathfinder

Dear Son, I am a broken record when it comes to thoughts of you.  They cycle around and around and always come back to the same hard place.   I’m doing it, your dad is doing it, your sister is … Continue reading →

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Softer Days

Posted on March 1, 2013 by pathfinder

  I am in search of a soft day  where I land easy where the morning is warm that my heart fills with light where promise comes in a whisper of hope   I wake to the day and look … Continue reading →

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